Is your need for approval causing you pain?

Another great blog from MindBodyGreen. This struck me for two reasons: 1) I am very interested in Dr. Sarno’s belief that pain (even if there is evidence of structural defect) is likely rooted in emotional issues; and 2) this author says a strong need for approval can force the body into a constant fight or flight response which just happens to be how RSD/CRPS is often described.

http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-14185/are-you-desperate-for-approval-why-it-could-be-hurting-your-health.html

” Sociologist Martha Beck says, “Pain is like a life coach in your body. It’s what made me a life coach because I started paying a lot of attention to what made me hurt and what didn’t. It turned out my body was trying to steer me away from a life that was absolutely wrong for me and into a life that was absolutely wonderful.” Approval addicts, no matter what your approval seeking personality type fear that survival = “fitting in.” Fitting in takes many different forms, for some it means not doing anything to rock the boat, for others it means being all things to all people, still others think it means to never ask for help. For me, it meant being the “best” at everything (which by the way is impossible). The bottom line is that when you have an irrational fear that your survival depends on external approval or at the very least not making people mad, bored or annoyed, you see other people as threats. You perceive social interactions as threatening and that sends the body into a near constant state of fight or flight. … There’s a name for this phenomenon. Psychologists call it rejection sensitivity.

In a nutshell, people who experience rejection become more sensitive to it. They’re more likely to interpret an ambiguous social exchange as rejection. It’s a tendency to feel deep anxiety in social situations that develops into a kind of paranoia about rejection. Our bodies are not set up to cope with chronic exposure to this a biochemical response to feelings of rejection and despair. So … this leads to “dis-ease” in the body. “

Your unconscious rage might be causing your pain

This is the premise of Dr. Sarno. He believes there is a response that happens in our bodies to both conscious and unconscious emotion. It is a response that affects nerves and muscles and causes very real pain.

First, be sure if you are having pain that you get it checked out. I am not a doctor and certainly anything that hurts should be looked into. But maybe then read Dr. Sarno. Even if you are told you have stenosis or a bum disc. Maybe especially if you are told that. RSD, back pain, arthritis, frozen shoulder, tennis elbow… what if all you needed to feel better was to read a book? I have seen a difference in myself.

The following is from the blog linked below written by a man who was actually a patient of Dr. Sarno.

“Like many of the traders on Wall Street, I was at the time suffering from inexplicable severe lower-back pain. The doctors and chiropractors I had seen had provided me with all sorts of implausible explanations for my pain—years of jogging, or my swiveling high-back executive desk chair, or how I cradled the telephone was to blame…Sarno’s message was that in the overwhelming majority of cases, back pain was a symptom created by the unconscious mind as a distraction to aid in the repression of strong unconscious emotional issues. The hopeful message I took from his book was that there was nothing structurally wrong with my back and that I should resume normal activity as soon as possible….Two years later I developed intense shoulder pain. Within a matter of days, my shoulder went from being sore to being unable to move…Sarno was intrigued by the sudden appearance of my intense shoulder pain and talked to me about the “ping-pong” effect he had noticed in some of his patients. That is, once one symptom disappeared, another emerges as a distraction. Call it symptom substitution or moving symptoms or “the symptom imperative.” He examined my shoulder carefully and concluded that there was no structural injury that was causing my pain, no need for surgery. Within days, the pain disappeared—more than 15 years ago…Sarno believes that most people are incapable of accepting the notion that the cause of their pain is not a structural abnormality or an injury, rather their unconscious minds at work. Radical, costly and ineffectual procedures recommended by the medical establishment, such as fusing of the vertebrae of the spine, are, remarkably, preferred by the majority of patients over an approach that requires the patient to examine his unconscious rage.”

http://www.forbes.com/sites/edwardsiedle/2012/09/26/americans-best-doctor-and-his-miracle-cures-dr-john-e-sarno/

Do you have joint pain? Are you inflamed? Do you have muscle spasms?

Ask your acupuncturist about cupping. This was a game changer for me in 2009.  To this day, it relieves my joint pain, muscle spasms and cools my inflammation better than anything else and within minutes.

“Cupping is used to relieve back and neck pains, stiff muscles, anxiety, fatigue, migraines, rheumatism, and even cellulite. For weight loss and cellulite treatments, oil is first applied to the skin, and then the cups are moved up and down the surrounding area.”

I find that the oil/moving cupping can be easier on the skin if you are extra sensitive that particular day.  Initially cupping was VERY painful for me but it helped to desensitize me over time.

http://www.pacificcollege.edu/acupuncture-massage-news/articles/677-the-many-benefits-of-chinese-cupping.html

 

Myer’s Cocktail

I didn’t know what this was until recently…I will be getting an IV bag of this on the same day i get my Vitamin C. I had this yesterday and my skin felt differently although, to be honest, I don’t know if it was the Myers or the glutathione. 
I do know that whenever i have had to get IV fluids for a few hours before bilateral sympathetic blocks that my skin was amazing after.  They required the few hours of fluids because shooting  both sides simultaneously causes dramatic blood pressure drop – the  machine could not even read me as a living person the first time. One nurse reported “well, she’s talking to us so i think it’s ok.” Comforting…no more blocks though so no more of that!

But a little extra added bonus: glowing skin. I’ll take it!

Myer’s Cocktail….”It consists of magnesium, calcium, various B vitamins, and vitamin C.  The Myers’ Cocktail has been used to treat general fatigue, chronic fatigue syndrome/fibromyalgia, relieve acute asthma attacks, upper respiratory tract infections, chronic sinus infections, seasonal allergies, migraine headaches, muscle spasms, menstrual cramps, as well as to support recovery from endurance athletics.”

Why to “IV” – the Benefits of Intravenous Nutrient Therapy

A great health blog on magnesium.

A great health blog on magnesium.

“Being magnesium deficient can contribute to fatigue, stress, muscle cramps and spasms, and more.  Magnesium is extremely alkalizing so it can help reverse tissue deterioration.  This essential mineral is necessary for the body in order to maintain normal nerve and muscle function, build strong bones, and keep a healthy immune system.”  —  From the oolaboolah blog

I believe magnesium played a huge part of what helped me turn around in 2010.  I had so much difficulty walking.  My ankle muscles would not function (the nerves at L5 took the brunt of the hit from the rogue graft).  Remember: nerves control muscles.  Whether it’s spasm or lack of motor control,  magnesium really could help – a lot.  I take much of mine through my skin in the form of epsom salt baths.

I really do think that, along with Omega 3s, magnesium may be key to curing myself.  Even if it’s not the ticket, I really do love my baths.

It’s the balm!

It’s the balm!

I know. Dumb play on words but i am easily amused.

Wintercrest Balm is AMAZING and anyone who knows me well has witnessed me run for this when anyone has complained of, well, anything. But for my RSD, it’s amazing for joint stiffness when it pops up as well as muscle spasms.

It seems a bit pricey but it actually lasts a while. I use this for congestion, sore throat, headache…really anything. It is cooling so i do not put it on my feet or lower legs generally.

Hmmm

Day of full body massage: awesome

Night of full body massage: ut oh.

Next day after fully body massage: Sh*t.

I can’t WAIT to see Dr Lee today for some moving cupping to stop these spasms! Tried epsom bath last night and even added cucumber to the water for the extra magnesium. No dice.

Dr. Lee held out on me until recently with this where he puts some oil on my skin and lightly moves the glass bulb for cupping along my skin. Best feeling ever and knocks out the crazy spasms in minutes.

Not going to cancel my next massage because i want to see if i can desensitize the nerves this way. Massage then cupping if the spasms hit.